Harav Moshe Weinberger’s Message and Apology to Victims

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Harav Moshe Weinberger’s Message and Apology to victims about letters written to help abusers with court sentencing. This Rav shows leadership. We would like others to follow suit. Harav Moshe Weinberger’s Message and Apology to Victims Harav Moshe Weinberger Shlit’a - Dec 10, 2024. Sadly, I saw that reality playing out in front of my own eyes over the last few days. Within 24 hours of these letters being publicized, I heard from two victims of childhood sexual abuse. Both were completely distraught to discover people who are looked up to in our circles praising a pedophile’s character and advocating for him and his family. Both felt abandoned and shattered by communal leaders pledging their allegiance to an admitted child molester. And both found themselves questioning the very foundations of their existence, with these letters completely destroying their faith in our rabbonim. But there is also is another matter to be addressed here – communal leaders lending their signatures to causes without doing their due diligence. Rabbi Moshe Weinberger readily admitted to me that he would never have issued the statement of support that he authored nearly four years ago had he been aware of the full scope of the situation, truths that were conveniently omitted by those who asked him to endorse the individual in question. Acknowledging that he should have investigated the matter on his own to determine the true facts, Rabbi Weinberger proved himself to be a true leader, recording a video apologizing to sexual abuse victims for adding to their pain, and offering his help in any way possible. It's been ten years since Amudim first opened its doors, and while it seemed as if we were making steady progress over that time, this incident leaves me filled with doubt. I was so sure that our community was finally demonstrating its willingness to share the pain of sexual abuse victims, and living up to its promise to support them as they continued on the long road to healing. But this saga clearly demonstrates that while our leaders have applauded sexual abuse victims for their bravery, at least some of those same role models are still throwing them under the bus. I don’t know how to restore the public trust that has been eroded here, but I do know that every misstep presents an opportunity for growth and learning. It isn’t enough to say that we support and embrace victims of sexual abuse – our actions have to demonstrate that as well. We need to show support for those who have been horribly violated, not those who have perpetrated those deviant crimes. Doing anything less than that, whether knowingly or unknowingly, is the equivalent of plunging a knife into the heart of those who have been abused, retraumatizing them. Finally, I respectfully turn to our rabanim, community leaders, organizational heads, and physicians with a personal message. I know you all lead extraordinarily busy lives, but blindly affixing your name to the cause du jour without taking the time to fully assess all the facts at hand can have devastating consequences that can undermine you, as well as innocent individuals. With that in mind, I humbly implore you to follow Rabbi Weinberger’s example and publicly apologize for your actions. This is your opportunity to do the right thing and restore faith in our community and our values. To borrow a line from President Harry Truman, the buck stops here. Every member of our community, no matter who they are, must take responsibility for their actions and throw their support behind those who deserve it most. And while that is an obligation we must all shoulder as individuals, it is exponentially more critical for our rabbis and leaders, the role models that we should be looking up to and emulating. Sadly, they failed miserably in this case. Grave mistakes were made here. The question is, are we ready to learn from them?